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Comments for Undivided http://undividedjournal.com The Online Journal of Nonduality and Psychology Sat, 23 Apr 2016 15:34:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.2.15 Comment on Relationship vs. Relating by gary krane ` http://undividedjournal.com/2012/11/29/relationship-vs-relating/#comment-131718 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 15:34:54 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=912#comment-131718 Yup, pure genius! Can’t wait to integrate some or all of this wisdom into the new forthcoming Couplewise, since we all know that advice, insight, even recreating the attachment experience is often not enough to develop the new skills and habits necessary to have successful relationships. Meanwhile, back to combatting voter suppression to save the planet.

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by Stephan http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131359 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 21:48:19 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131359 Thanks for the question, Mark. As I suggest in the essay, healthy psychological attachment is completely different from the attachment that’s eschewed in spiritual practice as a source of suffering. Perhaps a better word would be “bonding” or “grounding”–or, even better, “trust.” It’s a sense of being an inextricable part of something greater than oneself, which is first experienced in the secure arms of a loving parent figure, carries over into one’s relationship with life and other people, and then naturally reaches fruition in one’s connection–and ultimate identification–with Consciousness or True Nature. Paradoxically, you could say that we awaken out of attachment to form and awaken to our attachment to, or rather our inseparability from, the empty, groundless ground of being. Nothing is more nourishing at every level–emotional, psychological, energetic, spiritual–than this profound realization.

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by Beth http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131356 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 20:13:01 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131356 Hi Stephan,

I really enjoyed this article and would like to read more on the subject of child development from the perspective advaita vedanta/buddist teachings. The emerging self as individual, “in a divide” so to speak is a fascinating area. The development of the “ego mind” – and cross cultural differences etc. I work with children under five and observe how we often encourage separation and support it by the way we work with and parent children.

Im currently on a course to learn how children learn to communicate and then use language and its so striking that the language itself supports the notion of the separate world from separate self from the offset. How did this come to be?

I notice avoidance and ambivalence in my thoughts and the resulting emotions can be rough seas born out of early established attachment responses. They are felt to be strong currents that sweep the perceived self far into the feelings of deep sadness, loss and confusion.

I know the cause of my suffering comes from mind and I find developing a capacity to notice the mind can be experienced as an additional layer of suffering and self torture. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 54 which I can tell you has thrown up even more thoughts about my selfless self. It often feels like I am looking for nothing in haystack when the haystack has long since blown away. But I have hope Im a seeker! Mmmm

If you can recommend any books on this area i’d be grateful and thanks again for the article.

With thanks

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by Kathleen Hendrickson http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131324 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 07:04:46 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131324 I find your article “spot on.” I have been a seeker for what seems most of my 71 years and find myself in the arms of, in your words, the great mother of the matrix. It is in her arms that I remember the spiritually connected and free spirited girl who was pure love. My attachment issues arose at my birth during WWII and my mother’s “hysterical illness” that they felt might be typhus. She didn’t hold me until I was two weeks old. Weeks after my birth, my father was on the front in battle in the Philippines. He had a near miss under mortar fire and was only one out of three who survived by jumping into a fox hole. I would meet him when I was nine months old. I was fortunate that he returned.

My attachment issues were minor, compared to some, but I have been attracted to two husbands with varied attachment issues and am writing and doing clinical work around spiritual grounding for the release of trauma, attachment being one of these.

Thank you for this fine article. Kathleen Hendrickson
http://www.intuitivekathleenjoy.com

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by Mark http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131322 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 06:05:59 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131322 Can we call it awakening if it involves attachment, even if it’s to the spiritual ground? It seems more appropriate to consider the nurturing of the matrix as a way of going to sleep.

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by william callahan http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131317 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 01:09:52 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131317 Wow that was a neurotic and certainly a knee jerk reaction to the first paragraph. After calming down and reading the whole piece I must apologize for jumping on the article so hastily. I will need to read it again and assimilate it but it began to resonate with my gut experience. I wasn’t just an orphan and a foster child. I also at age 13 was placed back with my birth mother and she had some issues with drugs and prostitution and wasn’t exactly able to provide a healthy or secure environment. So I run the spectrum of your insecure disorders (smile here).
Anyway forgive the first comment and feel free to delete it or whatever.
Bill from Boston

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Comment on Exploring the Connection Between Awakening, Attachment and Non-attachment by william callahan http://undividedjournal.com/2016/04/06/exploring-the-connection-between-awakening-attachment-and-non-attachment/#comment-131315 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 00:49:00 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1731#comment-131315 Well that doesn’t bode well for me does it. I grew up in an orphanage and state homes and I have been doing self investigation for a few years now. Actually I think you may not have the whole picture. I have been doing well with Ramana Maharishis process and am secure enough in the process to tell you that either I am an exception or ….. I learned a long time ago you can be the victim or you can rise above. But then again who is there to do any of that?
Mindfulness is the way to go. Cognitive neuroscience is…. well who knows what it is? We really know nothing. Except we know that we know nothing. Without thoughts there is no mind. Good luck with your learning curve.
Bill Callahan
Boston

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Comment on The Radical Act of Inward Looking by Swarajit Ghosh http://undividedjournal.com/2016/03/24/the-radical-act-of-inward-looking/#comment-131197 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 00:32:44 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1727#comment-131197 Mr Pendergrast, pardon my comment but this latest article adds nothing except a little bit of jargon to such a beautiful topic. Please focus on getting articles that contribute to the non dual movement.

Kind regards,
Ajit

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Comment on Self as Representation and Presence by Tom Gibbons http://undividedjournal.com/2016/01/11/self-as-representation-and-presence/#comment-130335 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 16:23:23 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1710#comment-130335 thanks Jim

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Comment on Self as Representation and Presence by James O'Hern http://undividedjournal.com/2016/01/11/self-as-representation-and-presence/#comment-130331 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 10:49:41 +0000 http://undividedjournal.com/?p=1710#comment-130331 I read your paper all the way through without once encountering a break the flow. Your writing is clear and precise, different perspectives deftly woven into the tapestry of your arguments. Bravo!  

I was particularly taken by the part early on dealing with “unaccounted pre-egoic”. The difference between infant experiencing the Dynamic Ground but doesn’t know it, contrasted with spiritual wholeness realized or achievable as an “awakened” adult.  You did a masterful job of weaving attachment theory and explanations of meditation and inquiry into the fabric of transpersonal psychology.  

I would hope that you find a way to share this with others outside your professional field as it truly deserves a broader audience.

Jim O’Hern

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