I really enjoyed this article and would like to read more on the subject of child development from the perspective advaita vedanta/buddist teachings. The emerging self as individual, “in a divide” so to speak is a fascinating area. The development of the “ego mind” – and cross cultural differences etc. I work with children under five and observe how we often encourage separation and support it by the way we work with and parent children.
Im currently on a course to learn how children learn to communicate and then use language and its so striking that the language itself supports the notion of the separate world from separate self from the offset. How did this come to be?
I notice avoidance and ambivalence in my thoughts and the resulting emotions can be rough seas born out of early established attachment responses. They are felt to be strong currents that sweep the perceived self far into the feelings of deep sadness, loss and confusion.
I know the cause of my suffering comes from mind and I find developing a capacity to notice the mind can be experienced as an additional layer of suffering and self torture. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 54 which I can tell you has thrown up even more thoughts about my selfless self. It often feels like I am looking for nothing in haystack when the haystack has long since blown away. But I have hope Im a seeker! Mmmm
If you can recommend any books on this area i’d be grateful and thanks again for the article.
My attachment issues were minor, compared to some, but I have been attracted to two husbands with varied attachment issues and am writing and doing clinical work around spiritual grounding for the release of trauma, attachment being one of these.
Thank you for this fine article. Kathleen Hendrickson
I was particularly taken by the part early on dealing with “unaccounted pre-egoic”. The difference between infant experiencing the Dynamic Ground but doesn’t know it, contrasted with spiritual wholeness realized or achievable as an “awakened” adult. You did a masterful job of weaving attachment theory and explanations of meditation and inquiry into the fabric of transpersonal psychology.
I would hope that you find a way to share this with others outside your professional field as it truly deserves a broader audience.